90% of psychological problems come from parents
“Just to choose a TV show, my daughter couldn’t close the door again.
“Wang Nutu, the parent of a sophomore, was watching the final exam transition, and she was increasingly worried about her daughter’s” temper “. She told reporters on the phone,” We don’t care about a little grievance, but she has very little questionsEasy to get angry, how can you calm down and learn?
Under the coordination of the reporter, Ms. Wang communicated with Xiao Ran, the director of the Xiao Ran Consulting Center.
He told reporters that this mental state is common among students.
Parents often treat their children with accusations and scoldings from an early age. They treat their children as an examination machine and only use the score theory to correct any mistakes made by children in the process of learning and exploring the world. They will treat an adult or evenIt can be said that the standard for treating saints requires children.
Xiao Ran often heard complaints from parents, “This child has a big problem!
“It was nothing more than this or that.
Of course, what is allowed at this time is to let the visitor relax, and the children must be avoided to prevent the children from being affected.
At this time, parents often have some grievances due to lack of credibility.
I feel that I have paid so much to my child, but I haven’t been able to let the child develop according to his wishes. I can’t help worrying, I don’t know what to do.
”Accordingly, it is said that the child has a problem, it is better to say that the parent has a problem, and at least 90% of the youth’s psychological problems are implanted in the parents.
“Xiao Ran analyzes, imagine a child who has never done housework, and even his own clothes and shoelaces require parents to do the work for him. How can he expect him to show his skills in the future?
Children have this phenomenon, and as parents, they often make the same mistakes: often we will promote a first-level official for others, evaluate a professional title and think that those should be obtained by ourselves, but never think about whether weAbility to sit in that seat and assume the corresponding responsibility.
Parents are still like this, and how to get parents to balance their own psychology is another problem everyone faces.
According to Director Xiao Ran, six days before the May Day holiday, counseling for primary and secondary school students’ psychological problems became a hot topic, which was double the same period last year.
And according to dialysis statistics, the mental health of children, adolescents and youth is not optimistic: 33.
1% of students think studying is a distressing task; 67.
3% of students dislike education; 15.
7% of students find life boring; 10.
7% of students think of death.
The number of students dropping out of school due to mental illness has far exceeded the number of students dropping out of school due to infection.